Take Control of Your Life and Finances: How to Live Your Best Day

Living Life on the World’s Terms vs. Your Own Terms

If I asked you the question, “do you think you live your life on your own terms, or what the terms that society gives you?”, how would you answer?

Do you have a dream that you want to turn into a reality, and you wake up each day with a plan to make it happen? Or do you just follow your peers and the expectations that have been given to you during you childhood?

Oftentimes, the key to success in any endeavor, whether it be financial, business, relationships, health, etc., is to have the guts and determination to live you life on your own terms, not the terms that have been given to you.

Usually the life that is given to us is not the one that we want, but it takes more than just wanting something in order to get it. We need to deliberately put a plan in place and develop habits that put us on the path for success, even if it means going against what many people might say is normal or good for us.

“If you want what most people don’t have, you need to be willing to do what most people won’t.” – Someone well-known but re-quoted by me 😉

This process is much easier said than done, as the way we grew up and the people we associate with on a daily basis have a huge influence on our life whether we realize it or not. So how do we go about living our life on our own terms?

 

 

How to Be Proactive and Live Your Best Day

Just want to make this clear; living a life where you are proactive and in control requires some planning and hard work, but it is absolutely possible for anyone. You just need to surround yourself with the right information and create positive habits that will enable you to live your best life.

So here are a few things you can do to take control and live your best day!

1. Set goals: What cannot be measured, cannot be managed… or something like that. You need to set goals for every area in your life and write them down. Some examples being having a savings goal each month or total net worth for personal finances, or for health you can write down your target weight or number of pullups you want to do. Write down the goal and the steps on how you will get there (e.g. save $1,000/month by automatically deducting it from checking into savings and living off the rest).
2. Create healthy habits: The goal is the destination and the habits are the journey. I’m a big believer that our success in life is completely determined by our habits. Success doesn’t just happen one day but is the result of years of curating healthy habits. A few habits that most successful people would recommend are reading daily, weekly exercise routine, healthy eating (many different ways to do this), getting plenty of sleep, meditation, etc.
3. Remove temptations and unhealthy habits: Just as it important to develop healthy habits, it is also just as important to remove unhealthy habits and temptations. A healthy habit can bring you up, but an unhealthy temptation can bring you right back down. A few examples of this could be watching too much tv, engaging in gossip or negative talk, too much alcohol/caffeine/other substances, spending too much time on social media or following pop culture, and the list can go on. Basically, we want to be constantly filling our body/mind with positive, healthy and nourishing things, that will push our towards success.
4. Associating with positive and successful people: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” This is one of the most important quotes I’ve ever heard, as we need to be very careful with who we spend a lot of time with because are brains are like sponges and soak up whatever we let come our way. If your friends and family aren’t as supportive of your goals as you would like, then find other sources to pick you up and push you in the right direction. A few options are networking groups, podcasts, audiobooks and online blogs. Famous success coach Tony Robbins listened to the same Jim Rohn tapes on repeat every day for years while he was growing his business. Just because you don’t have direct access to successful people, doesn’t mean you cannot use their tools to wire your brain for success.
5. Stick with it: Creating a lifestyle that allows you to live on your terms takes time and patience, and there’s no such thing as an overnight success. Starting a daily reading habit, a workout routine, or teaching yourself a new skill, all starts with a simple action taken day in and day out. It takes about 3 weeks of daily practice to create a new habit, so get started today and stick with it, and soon enough it’ll just become part of your life!

 

Your Life Belongs to You

 

 

In order to give 100% of yourself to the world and make the biggest impact possible, you need to live your life on your own terms. If someone else is telling you how to spend your time, money or energy, you will never be able to make the impact that you want during your life.

In other words, I’m saying that you need to be a bit selfish and that being selfish is necessary for success. Some of the world’s most successful givers were selfish in the way they lived their lives. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. prioritized the cause of racial equality in the U.S. over all else, and Elon Musk believes that saving humanity from climate change and providing an escape route via SpaceX are the most important causes to all, and both of these men selfishly prioritize these altruistic goals.

They didn’t let the world tell them how to live.

You need to be your best self and live your best life to be able to give to others. It’s better to give 50% of your time at 100% capability vs.100% of your time at 50% of your capability. Whether your cause is raising a great family as a financially independent parent or saving humanity from extinction. Whatever your cause, you need to live your life on your terms to make it happen.

 

Question: Do you struggle to live your life on your own terms? How do you go about living proactively to have the best life?

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